Tuesday, August 20, 2013

The Two Bravest People I know

It was six years ago today that we lost a cousin, a son, a friend, a nephew.  It still doesn't seem real and this weekend, as my son got married and we felt the empty spot where Cody would have stood by my son at the altar, there sat his mom and dad, in the pew near the back of the church.

I can't tell you enough how brave these two people are.  Who of us could go on after losing their son, their ONLY son, let alone keep putting one foot in front of the other, one step at a time, one breath at a time, one day at a time, one month, one year at a time?

They do, they have, they continue to.

"Cody would have wanted us to,"  his mom told me after my first daughter got married and they made the journey from Wisconsin to Memphis with dread and sadness and an ache in their hearts.  She said it again  last year when my youngest daughter got married and they made the journey from Wisconsin to Knoxville.

"Cody would have wanted us to."

So they do what Cody would have wanted.





They come.

They sit through the events that Cody would have loved to be a part of, laughing when they'd rather be crying, sitting and listening and wondering what Cody might have shared at the rehearsal dinners.  What he may have said, or how he would have looked in his gray suit standing next to TJ as he married the woman God made for him.

"Cody would have wanted us to."

They are the bravest two people in the world to me.

Today is the anniversary of the day their lives changed forever.

Cody would have wanted you to know this about them.

Just Write

Friday, August 9, 2013

Ready to start the next chapter

For the most part our new home is set up and coming together well.  When we had our big clean out at our old house I got rid of lots and lots of stuff that I no longer used, didn't like, or just needed to let go.  I kept only my favorite decorating pieces and have slowly been trying to make them work in our new house.

It hasn't been easy.  The design of our new house is much different,wall space for hanging pictures is less, and it just....I don't know, doesn't quite flow.  So I've boxed up what doesn't "work" for right now and I'm just setting it aside for the time being and will try again in a week or two.

Our son is getting married next weekend so we will be on the road for several days traveling to and from this wonderful event in our lives so it's a good time to take a break.

I still find it a dream sometimes that I am now living in a new place, but it's a good dream.  We are enjoying being closer to our extended family, taking our boat out and enjoying the beauty of summer in Wisconsin.  We are blessed beyond what we deserve and I can only thank God for the new journey He is starting.


Tuesday, August 6, 2013

A foundation is only as good as the building it supports

For several years, while living in Tennessee, I would frequently pass a property that intrigued me.  There was a house built on the property and obviously lived in, and about ten years, give or take a few years ago I noticed that a foundation had been built with what looked to be a new house that would be built upon it.

Each time I would approach this property and this foundation I would wonder if the building had been started, and each time I would only see this.

For years, at least 8, maybe ten or more, the foundation remained the same and the only thing that was added to the foundation were weeds that would grow up amongst the sand.  Every so often the weeds would be gone, but still the foundation remained, no walls were going up, no signs of any continued building were seen.

Now, I don't know the story of why the house, or building was never built, nor is that the point of why this intrigued me so.  Maybe there was a tragedy, a loss of income, who knows?  But the foundation has just sat there, waiting....

You know I can't see things for what they simply are, a foundation that is just a foundation, my brain starts to think about foundations.  What they are for, what is built upon them.  How it will be used.  

I don't know a lot about laying foundations for buildings, but I respect the engineering that is involved in making sure that a good foundation is laid.  That the foundation will support whatever will be built upon it.

But....what if nothing is ever built upon the foundation?  I'm assuming this foundation is intended to hold a home.  A home with walls and lights and carpet and people and furniture and warmth and joy and fun and laughter and tears.  

But if you only have a foundation, what kind of home can you have?  Maybe you can set up your furniture on the foundation, but as soon as the rain comes, you're going to get wet.  Maybe you can even cook a meal on an open foundation, have friends and family over, but where does one go for shelter when the foundation has no walls or no roof?

Our lives of faith can be like that empty foundation.  We can have a great foundation laid in our hearts.  A great foundation of faith in a Savior named Jesus, but when it's a foundation only and nothing else is being built upon it; no walls of learning are being added; no roofs of security or shelter to protect from the elements that drive us to our knees are there; no lights of wisdom and discernment to light our path on this broken road we trod, what good is a foundation for now?

We need the foundation, we rest in our foundation in Christ's sacrifice for us, we have peace in the foundation that has been laid for our salvation.

But if our foundation is just a foundation and no home is added, you're going to get beaten by the elements.  Sure, you can have your friends over and cook out and sit on your couch and say "what a wonderful foundation this is!"  

But where are you going to go when it storms?

God wants you to build on the foundation He's laid for you.  Make a home on your foundation.  A home of learning, of knowledge, of stretching and thinking.  Add some lights, put up some rooms so many more can come and enjoy your foundation and your home built on the Foundation that is Jesus.  

Great engineering went into that Foundation.  It can stand the test of many, many storms.  There's enough rebar in its walls to support any wind that tries to blow your walls down.  It's solid, it's sure, it's True.  

And its meant to be built upon.


Thursday, August 1, 2013

TJOLC Book two begins

As of yesterday our home is now the home of our daughter and son-in-law.  My mess has been cleared out by joy.  God is good.  Here's to the next chapters of our lives!