I've been thinking about that question lately. I hear it asked a lot by patients and by their loved ones. I ask it myself when things are difficult and trying. Kris Kristopherson wrote a song with that exact same title.
"Why me, Lord?
What have I ever done,
to deserve even one
of the treasures I've known."
One of the answers I've been given when I've asked "why me?' is...Why not you?
Why not me?
Why not you?
It's a humbling question, isn't it? Especially for us whiny followers of Jesus. We think, like the rest of the world thinks. We have hardships, like the rest of the world has hardships. We get sick, like the rest of the world gets sick. We have deaths in our family, like the rest of the world has deaths in their family. We have bad things happen to us, just like the rest of the world.
Why do we think that it should be any different because we belong to Him? Why do we think that we should be exempt from trouble? Our BC mind can get us thinking that and going over the cliff with that exact thought. If I only had a stronger faith, I wouldn't get sick. If I only went to church more, read the Bible more, my life would be better. If only, if only, if only.................................
But the AC mind, that one where Christ lives now, that mind can say to the BC mind....Why not you? If we're guaranteed to have trouble in this world, remember that wonderful promise - In this world you WILL have trouble - yeah, that one. Remember, if we're going to have trouble, agitation, compression, squeezing, tribulation, affliction, isn't it better to have Jesus going through it with me rather than going through it without Him, like the rest of the world does?
Why you? Why not you?
Did you ever take a second to think that God chose you for the tribulations you're going through so that through them the unsaved and the struggling believer may see Him in you?
Why not you? What makes you so special that you think your trial is any harder than the next person? We all have trials. We all have burdens we are carrying, some very silently, but we all have them.
You've been picked for this trial you're in. God could have stopped it. God could have prevented circumstances from ever involving you, but He didn't. Why didn't He?
Why you? I don't know. We may never know the answer to "why?" And we can drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out the whys of something.
Why not you?
In this world you WILL have trouble. If we keep forgetting that fact the unanswered why me's are only going to frustrate you.
God is not surprised by the troubles you have. If you want to keep on whining by asking "why me?" go right ahead. But if you really want to grow in spite of the troubles you have then agree with God and ask, "Why not me?"
You can trust that there is a greater reason for the trials and tribulations. He promised us that we would have them and God uses EVERYTHING for good.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son...
We like the first part of that verse, don't we? We throw it out there often and in a plethora of circumstances. But it's the second part, that conformed to his likeness part that we don't use too much. That part we just let hang. It's not as comforting as the first part. We don't like to think that we have to be changed from the ALL things part. We just want to see the good that's coming because we love God. I don't want to admit that change in me is coming because of the good I'm waiting on.
Why me? To be conformed. To give the same shape, outline, or contour to; bring into harmony or accord, to be similar or identical. To be given the same likeness, the "Eikon - to be like, resemble. Eikon always assumes a prototype, that which it not merely resembles, but from which it is drawn and to which it answers. The reflection of the sun on the water is its eikon, and a child is the eikon of his parents. "
Why me? To be a reflection. The only way I can be a reflection of Him is to live in this trouble He promised me.
Why you? Why me? This is why. This is why you and nobody else.
To come through the other side looking like Him. Jesus. The one who accepted the why, even after begging for another way, He submitted to the plan. Maybe His human mind couldn't grasp the extent of what the Divine's sacrifice would bring. Maybe His human mind battled with the Divine Mind and said, "uh uh. No way, not me." Maybe.
Jesus was tempted in EVERY way that we are. Tempted to whine, why me? Tempted to find a way out of the trial He was in. But He didn't give in. He made it through to the other side so that He can help us through the trials that overwhelm and even those that are small on someone else's scale.
He's got a purpose for the trouble He promised you're in. The question isn't Why me? The question is, what are you using me for through this?
Don't look for the obvious. I dare you to go deeper. If he didn't stop the trouble from hitting, where are all the places the ripples are touching? Who is being touched who would have never been touched if you hadn't gone through the trial you're in right now?
Why not you?